Sunday, January 20, 2008
Oh, what a week
I almost ruined our whole wedding with only two weeks left, and Diana had surgery.
Monday, we took Diana to have her tumors removed. She went in at 8 ish, and I left work early to pick her up that afternoon. When we got home she was so drunk, it was hard to watch her. She wanted to walk around the bedroom (we put her in there with bed, food, water and litterbox so the other cats wouldn't bother her) but she kept falling over. It was really painful. For me, not so much for her, I don't think. The instant we left her alone she went under the bed. She likes to get under there, but has never been able to figure out how to get out. We had to lift up the mattress and box spring and then I had to pick her up to get her out. When there's a GIANT incision on her stomach, that's not easy. We stuffed pillows in the cracks so she couldn't get back under there and left her alone some more in the hopes that she would sleep. So she settled down in the closet and slept. The next day was better, and the next and the next. She's doing really well now, doesn't seem to have any pain, and has developed a strange cat fetish. She loves it when you pet her on the shaved part of her stomach, near the incision. She squirms and turns to get your hand to go there. It's soft, but I don't want to grab a handful of stitches. The vet said to wait 4-5 days for the pathology to come back. I'm still worried, but I'm trying not to borrow trouble.
So, I almost ruined our wedding. I've been trying to get the music planned for months now, and hadn't made any headway with ANYONE. We wanted Jason's step-mom to play, but the church wouldn't allow it. I asked to talk to the organist and got no-where. Finally, when I got through to the pastor on e-mail, he nixed all of my recorded songs saying that they had a very talented group of people working there. SO, after our meeting with the minister, he promised to have their "substitute" organist call us. They don't even have an organist. So, a week later, he calls me and says he could play anything and I send him our list of requests. He emails me back saying that he doesn't know most of them and asks if I could get sheet music. Jason calls up his Dad, and they have the music. for organ. on hand. So, I tell the organist this, and his response is to pick different songs because he's not comfortable with those. I was mad. It had been a really long week, I'd been trying to get this together forever and now who knows what will be played.
Here's where I really screwed up. I was frustrated, and I wrote an email to Jason, it said: I'm about to scream, this guy is such a putz, I'm about ready to call the church and complain. I hit send. I looked in me sent folder a few minutes later. I had sent the email to THE ORGANIST. OMG. I sent 3 apologetic emails and waited. I was sure we were out of the church, and the wedding was ruined. I felt awful. Sure, I was frustrated, but I had no right to be so mean. I'm sure I'd hurt his feelings and I didn't want to do that. I was being cut off at every pass. I had the solution at my fingertips. I wasn't allowed to use it. So, I waited. I waited all day and most of the next for the phone to ring.
Then, while we were out grocery shopping, it did. It was the minister. He said that he understood that we wanted our day to be special, but he had to look out for his people. He said that we could go forward, and I apologized profusely. I called the organist and apologized. He sent me an email this morning. I hope we can just work it out for this, and this has left me with some advice for brides. Don't pick your church on looks. I'm a member of a church, and I love everyone there. My father is the minister for goodness sake, and The rest of everyone is great. the problem is that it's tiny and not that pretty. I always imagined having my wedding at a big beautiful church, and that's not what mine was. So, I chose this church for it's looks. I've gotten the feeling what the minister has never liked us, and now this mess. So, my advice for brides would be to attend the church you are thinking about for a few weeks and get to know the staff before booking. That way you are assured to have the best experience.